Hey guys! In my last post, I explained that one of my new year goals was to post regularly. Welcome to my first post of 2020! It’s a new year and everybody is thinking of new things that they want to start doing but I realized, we all have things we should stop doing too.
Let’s be honest, we all have times that we are our own worst enemy. We put ourselves down and beat ourselves up about something we said or did. One thing I tell myself all the time is, “Omg, I’m so stupid.” Even if it’s a small mistake that I laugh about. It’s become a habit that I wasn’t even aware of.
My mom was actually the one that caught me and told me to stop talking to myself like that. So now, when I make a small mistake, I change that statement to, “Wow, I’m so smart.” See what I did there? Even if it’s sarcastic to myself, the sentence is now positive.
After I had the realization of that one sentence that was toxic to my self-esteem, I thought about all the other things we tell ourselves often that we really need to stop.
Stop Telling Yourself…
I’m not good enough. I know we all have told ourselves this at least once in our lifetime, right? The thing is, we are so wrong. We are all here for a reason and we all have a purpose. If you don’t know what your purpose is, it’s time to go search for it.
I can’t do it. You can. You have just given up too soon. Get back up and try again. If it’s something you really want to do, you’ll find a way to do it no matter what it takes.
I’m unlovable. I think the first thing you should ask yourself when you feel this way is, do I love myself? You know the saying, you have to love yourself before anyone can love you. It’s true. Once you truly love yourself, that confidence will shine. What can you do to start your relationship with yourself?
I’m not attractive. This is a popular one. What makes you feel that way? The great thing about being human is that you can change. You don’t like your hair, change it up! Want to lose weight? Start a workout routine. Don’t get yourself stuck feeling this way because you don’t have to be.
I’m going to fail. You’re probably right. Hear me out though. We all fail at something before we’re good at it! This is a statement that I want you to change your feelings about. You are going to fail then you’ll become good. This is only if you stop being scared of the failure part.
I don’t have time. How many times have you canceled on somebody or something for this excuse? The truth is, we all can make time for something or somebody we care about. If you have a lot to do, make a priority list. If you can’t do it that day, fit it in for the next day. Just don’t sweep it under the rug for too long or it’ll become a nasty habit that a lot of us fall into.
I’m stupid. The one statement I had to learn to break myself. This can totally destroy your self-confidence if you let it. Why do you say this to yourself? If it’s because you make a lot of mistakes, remind yourself we all do. Then find one area at a time that you can work on improving. Most importantly, when you find yourself saying “I’m stupid,” correct yourself. You’re not stupid. You’re learning, improving your skills, and you’re growing.
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Are You Ready?
Are you ready to stop telling yourself these toxic things? You can do it. Whenever you feel yourself saying any of these things to yourself, remember to correct yourself. Switch the negative phrase to something positive. Write down the goals and steps you’re going to make to change the way you feel.