We all know that girl who is always sharing motivating quotes, positive Instagram captions, always smiling and trying to uplift others around her. That girl must have it all. She must have been born into an easy life and doesn’t know the struggle. That girl is becoming annoying, right?
Hi, I’m that girl and I’ve heard it all. I actually recently read an article about how bloggers who are sharing some positive posts are part of the “toxic positivity” culture. That kind of struck a nerve in me even though I understand some of the points they made. But I want to talk about it and maybe share a new perspective. First, let’s talk about the common misconceptions.
They were born with an easy life
It’s easy to assume somebody has an easy life when all you see or read is the positive things that they post. But the truth is, a lot of people who are life coaches or out there spreading positivity, knows first hand what it’s like to struggle. It’s a large reason why they do it. I think it’s important not to judge a book by a cover.
They’re always happy
I once read a quote that said, “The brightest smile has the darkest past.” This is pretty true. Just because somebody is always smiling, doesn’t mean that they’re the happiest person alive. It just means they are strong and fighting to find the best in every day.
They’re trying to cure everyone of sadness
Sadness is inevitable. Life is hard, and there are always going to be things that will make you sad. From someone who uses her platform to spread positivity and happiness, I want you to know that I do it so others can find more positivity and hope in this messed-up life. Positive people aren’t trying to “cure” sadness, they’re just trying to help people navigate life in a more positive way.
They’re faking it
You know the saying, “you got to fake it until you make it?” This is kind of true. Hear me out. I used to smile in the mirror with tears in my eyes repeating, “You’re going to be okay.” Did I really believe it at that moment? Not really. But I kept doing it, kept reading my positive affirmations, kept writing my positive quotes, and I eventually started believing the words I was saying and reading. Maybe it starts out by “faking it” but with good intentions. Because believe it or not, the end results are real. And that is another big reason why people talk so much about changing your mindset.
They are so annoying
I get it, if somebody is constantly posting happy go lucky posts or always talking about how great life is, when life is not always sunshine and rainbows, it can get a bit annoying. But most people out there are just trying to either help themselves or help lift others up. Can some people lay it on a little bit too thick? Sure, I know I used to! But you don’t have to continue following them if you find them too annoying.
There are some posts that are titled along the lines of, “How To Live The Perfect Life” I think we can all admit that’s extremely misleading and can understandably rub someone the wrong way. I’m careful with how I word my own posts based on mindset and positivity.
For example, I have a blog post called, 7 Ways to Change Your Life. This post is based on changing your habits and mindset in such a way that it can change your life.
I created this blog post because I wanted to share a fresh perspective on why positive people are sharing these posts and that you shouldn’t judge too harshly. We’re all trying to navigate this crazy world together.