I know that each and every one of us has at least one thing they’re insecure about. Whether that be your body, hair, acne, or scars. We are our biggest critic and it can truly destroy our confidence. I speak of experience.
Growing up, I started to realize how different I was from everybody else. When I was younger, I didn’t realize it as much because I wasn’t shorter than my 1st-grade friends and they thought I was cool for having crutches. If anything, my elementary school years were the best because I didn’t feel out of place. Then as the years went by, my friends started growing and I stayed about the same height. Kids started looking at me weird and started asking why I’m so short and why I can’t walk. I started really noticing every flaw I had and I hated them. I became obsessed with trying to make myself as perfect as I could. I had to have the perfect hair, the perfect skin, my clothes had to fit in a way that would make my body look “better.” I completely lost myself in my insecurities.
Then one day, I had a hard look in the mirror and realized I couldn’t go on feeling so horrible with myself. It was mentally exhausting and not the way I wanted to live my life. I decided to start writing down everything I loved about myself. I grew determined to make my “what I love about myself” list much longer than my “what I don’t like about myself” list. Slowly, I started realizing that I had a lot that I loved about myself. I realized that the body that I wanted to change so badly before was the body that I was going to have for the rest of my life. The only way to change anything was to change the way I felt about it.
Every day, I started accepting what I saw in the mirror. Even better, I started loving what I saw and who I am. I began working out and making healthier choices. I found clothes that fit my body well and made me feel the most confident. I made little changes that made me feel good about myself and soon, there was a smile looking back at me in the mirror.
“Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways.”
– Jerry Corstens
Loving yourself is an ongoing journey but you have to start somewhere. First, you need to believe that it’s possible that you can love yourself. Stop looking at your flaws as something horrible. Every flaw makes you who you are. There is nobody else out there like you. You are unique and that is special. You are special.
Keep going and stay strong.