Throughout life, we’re always creating habits. A habit is when you do something out of routine or practice that just becomes second nature to us without much thought. For example, every single morning I get out of bed and make coffee. That one is clearly a good habit because, without coffee, I’m not sure what I’d do.
While some habits aren’t always good for us, let’s focus on the ones that can change our lives in the best way and improve our future.
Note: The five positive habits that I list in this post might be the opposite you currently have in your life. That’s perfectly okay because it’s possible to break a negative habit and turn it around! In fact, I lived with the opposite habits for all of these for a long time. That’s why I’m sharing this post with you all.
Recognize toxic people in your life
There are some people in our lives that we need to increase boundaries with or shouldn’t even keep around because their behaviors and actions are hurtful to us. No matter if they’re your friends, significant other, or even family, you don’t deserve to be treated negatively. Believe it or not, sometimes we can be totally oblivious to this and that’s where recognizing toxic behaviors can become a habit.
This is a form of manipulation that will make you question your feelings, experiences, and reality. It’s emotional abuse that is hard to recognize because, over time, that person will make you doubt yourself in every aspect.
Here are some examples of things they may say:
- That never happened
- You’re so sensitive
- You’re crazy and everyone knows it
- I’m sorry you think I would do that
- You should have known that’s what I’d do
- Do you hear yourself?
- You’re imagining things
If you’re a victim of this emotional abuse, it’s important that you remember the truth from the lies you were made to believe. Seeing a therapist might help with this. But it’s also so important that you distance yourself from the abuser as it’s not likely they’ll change their ways.
You’re always there for them but they’re never there for you
In any kind of relationship, it’s important that you are both there for each other. There are times when one person may need extra support but it should never only be a one-sided relationship.
For example, whenever they’re upset or going through something, they go to you to talk about it and ask for advice. It’s likely you sit there, listen, and give advice. But when you’re going through something, they’re too busy or you can tell they don’t really care.
I’ve had a friendship like this and it went on for years because I let it. Talk to them about it and if nothing changes, let them go.
In life, we don’t want to be put down. We need to be lifted up. Especially when it comes to the people we let in our lives. If someone in your life is judging you more than loving you for you, I would definitely sit down with them and let them know that they’re hurting you. Their response and action afterward should tell you whether or not to let them go. Do they apologize and plan on making changes or do they point out how sensitive and dramatic you are?
Use Positive Affirmations
If you’re tired of negative thoughts and being trapped in self-doubt, I encourage you to practice positive affirmations! This has become one of my favorite habits that I practice every single day. Since using affirmations, not to sound cheesy, my mental health improved so much.
I realized my worth, started completing my goals, and even got my dream apartment. The reason they’re so powerful is that they help unlock your best self.
Where to start:
- Recognize areas in life you need help in or doubt yourself in.
- Write down any negative thoughts you’ve had about yourself.
- Turn those negative thoughts into positive phrases. Write them down.
- Imagine your dream life without all of those negative thoughts.
Ready to make this a daily habit? Challenge yourself to write down 5 affirmations every morning in a journal.
- Today will be a good day
- My potential to succeed is infinite
- I am walking into today with confidence
- My ideas are amazing
- I am doing my best
Start Saving Money
It’s important that we start practicing good money habits. I plan on posting about this topic in greater depth later but let’s start small first, saving money.
This is a habit that could potentially save your life one day. Here are a few simple ways you can save money starting right now.
- Cancel any subscriptions you don’t need. Trust me, I am a sucker for subscription plans but when my makeup hoarding got too much, I canceled my Boxycharm. That’s an extra $15 in my account every month! Do you NEED the subscription right now?
- Buy generic brands. Did you know there’s a chance you’re paying more just for the label on some items? There’s usually a product that is nearly the same exact thing from a generic brand costing less. For example, Walmart’s brand is “Great Value” costing less.
- Eat out less. Bad habit. I know that ordering UberEats or stopping by McDonald’s is quick and convenient but your bank account disagrees. That money you’re spending adds up quickly. You’ll save so much money if you prepare food at home more often.
- Use cashback apps. Do you shop online often? Well, good news, you can get cashback from most websites using Honey! Honey finds the best coupons and then gives you “gold” you can redeem just for shopping!
- Autosave. What if you could automatically save $5 each week and not even think about it? Acorns has been my saving grace (haha, get it?) with this lately! You can also invest spare change with purchases. It all adds up without a second thought.
Give Yourself a Goal Every Month
Every month, I like to give myself one big goal to focus on. This not only makes me look forward to each month but it gives me something to work towards every day. This is a really good habit to pick up.
The goals you make might have multiple steps before it’s complete, so I recommend getting a planner so you stay productive and on track!
Some goals you can try making for each month are:
- Save “X” amount of money
- Redecorate a room
- Buy something you’ve been needing
- Plan a vacation
- Learn 5 new recipes
- Learn a new skill
- Start a blog
Say No With Confidence
Saying no is hard. It’s something I’ve struggled with for most of my life but it can get you into a lot of trouble. This is a habit that is so important because it does get easier.
When should I say no?
- You feel uncomfortable
- You have other priorities
- You’re busy
- You just don’t want to (that’s okay!)
No matter if you’re being invited out to dinner or someone’s peer pressuring you into something, you have every right to say no. Also, explaining yourself isn’t necessary. Although, there is a fine line between being a jerk and saying no with confidence.
“I’m going to pass on tonight. We can find time next week though!”
“No, I’m not comfortable with that.”
“I don’t feel up to it today.”
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Ready For New Habits?
These are five good habits that could improve your future if you put the work in. You are capable of everything that you want in life. Remember, a habit becomes a habit with practice. Whatever you need in life, it will become easier to achieve with enough determination.
What habit(s) are you most excited to start working on developing? Let me know in the comments below!
Amanda Burnett is a 25-year-old content creator. Growing up with a disability, she wanted to prove to herself that she was capable of accomplishing her dream life. Today she is helping her audience realize their potential as well! Her goal is to motivate as many people as she can through her lifestyle, beauty, and self-improvement content.
This was a really great post! Saving $ is something I don’t think people think of as a habit (I hadn’t thought of it!) but it’s a really great idea! (Something I need to do!). Positive affirmations are simply amazing ! I can’t say anything less about them!
Mind Beauty Simplicity says
loved this post! i’m def looking to develop healthier habits this year.
Molly | Transatlantic Notes says
Very interesting and encouraging ideas here; I really need to put a few things in place to improve my present and nourish my future so this post has really got me thinking. Thanks!
Goals are useful. These are great points.
Heidi Bruaw says
These are such important habits. Saving money is the one I am the best at, honestly.
I really enjoyed this piece- so many actionable tips!
You’ve reminded me that I do have about 4 subscriptions that I need to cancel – best get to it to save more!
I love these habits. They’re much more nuanced than other habit posts I’ve seen before. My two fave are saving money. Even if a little bit. We now round up any purchase into a savings pot. It’s only pennies on each purchase but it mounts us. I also love saying no with confidence. I’m trying to be better with my boundaries.
Maria Khan says
Helpful post! Thanks for sharing
Mind Beauty Simplicity says
saying no with confidence is something i’m really trying to establish this year. thanks for this insightful read.
Love this post!
I’m so glad you enjoyed the post, Jessi! xx
Phew! Thanks for this post. You made points I wasn’t expecting. Thanks for sharing.
I’m so glad you enjoyed the post! xx
Great post! Saying no with confidence is something I’ve been working on a lot recently and I’d like to think I’ve made a lot of progress with it. I still need to get into much better habits with positive affirmations and saving money though – particularly the latter, as I’ll be moving out soon! I look forward to reading your later post on that, haha. Thank you so much for sharing x
Congratulations on moving! That is such an exciting step in life. xx
Emma T says
These are pretty important things for everyone to be doing. Certainly helps with a more positive mentality.
I totally agree, Emma!