How I Learned To Love Myself And My Flaws

April 27, 2019

I know that each and every one of us has at least one thing they’re insecure about. Whether it be your body, hair, acne, or scars. Sometimes looking in the mirror at ourselves can be difficult. We are our own biggest critic and enemy sometimes and it can truly destroy our confidence. I speak of experience. Let me share my journey of how I learned to love myself and give you a couple of tips if you’re struggling too. ♥

Growing Up

Growing up, I started to realize how different I was from everybody else. When I was younger, I didn’t realize it as much because I wasn’t much shorter than my 1st-grade friends and they thought I was cool for having crutches. If anything, my elementary school years were the best because I didn’t really feel out of place and kids were nice.

As the years went by, my friends started growing and I stayed about the same height. Kids started looking at me weird and started asking why I’m so short and why I can’t walk. That’s when I started really noticing every flaw I had and I hated them. I became obsessed with trying to make myself as perfect as I could. I had to have the perfect hair, the perfect skin, my clothes had to fit in a way that would make my body look “better.” I completely lost myself in my insecurities.

Changing My Mindset

Eventually, I had a hard look in the mirror and quickly realized I couldn’t go on feeling so horrible with myself. It was mentally exhausting and not the way I wanted to live my life. Of course, I have my whole life with myself. How could I go a lifetime not liking myself? I realized I needed to start doing something that would change the mentality about how I thought about myself.

In result, I decided to start writing down everything I loved about myself. I grew determined to make my “what I love about myself” list much longer than my “what I don’t like about myself” list.

It looked a little something like this:

  • I have pretty hair
  • I have pretty eyes
  • My sense of humor is great
  • My ability to be positive
  • I’m caring
  • I’m creative

Slowly, I started realizing that I had a lot that I loved about myself. I also noticed that a lot of the things I loved about myself had nothing to do with my looks. Who I am on the inside is what I really love and that opened my eyes. Then I realized that the body that I wanted to change so badly before was the body that I was going to have for the rest of my life.

The only way to change anything was to change the way I felt about it.

Loving yourself starts with liking yourself, which starts with respecting yourself, which starts with thinking of yourself in positive ways

Jerry Corsten


Every day, I started accepting what I saw in the mirror. Even better, I didn’t hate what I saw and I started falling in love with who I am on the inside. Granted, the problem was how I felt about my body but I also needed to change my mindset. At the end of the day, they go hand in hand.

There were a few things I decided to do to further make positive changes towards my physical well being.

  • Began working out
  • Eating healthier
  • Found clothes that made me feel confident

As I made these little and positive changes, physically and mentally, that made me feel good about myself, there was soon a smile looking back at me in the mirror.

Loving Yourself Is A Process

Loving yourself is an ongoing journey and process but you have to start somewhere. First, you need to believe that it’s possible that you can love yourself and your flaws. Stop looking at your flaws as something detrimental. Change your mindset and focus on what you love about yourself first. Then, find ways you can make positive changes that will ultimately help you be more confident. As listed above, I began working out and eating healthier.

Will you have bad days? Of course. Nobody goes every single day feeling completely amazing about themselves but you can always bounce back.

Remember, every flaw makes you who you are and there is nobody else out there like you. You are unique and that is special. You are special.

Keep going, you warrior.


Amanda Burnett

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  1. This was a great post to read that I can relate too. I used to never really compare myself to others but as I got older I have started to a lot more. I’m trying not too but it’s a process and now I’m happy with what I see in the mirror! Xx

  2. This is a lovely post!! It’s nice to read about how others grew through self-acceptance. There have been a lot of things holding me back and making me hate myself when I looked in the mirror. I’m kind of at the point where I’m making peace with it and trying to focus on my good attributes. Your post has inspired me to also start writing them down! Thanks for this great post xx

  3. I relate so much to this. I used to be self conscious about the scars I have that I got when I was younger, to the point I hated myself.
    I don’t know what it was exactly, but something inside said, this is me, and I’m the best me there is, scars and all.

    Thank you for sharing.

  4. Beautiful. You’re right, learning to like ourselves is a process and learning to focus on the things we do like is the beginning. Nice practical tip about writing out what we like about ourselves. Thanks for this post!

  5. This is amazing!!! Self love can be difficult at times, very important to remind ourselves of how beautiful we are on the inside and outside 🙂

  6. A beautiful post and one that so many of us can relate to. it’s so hard to love yourself sometimes, but taking small steps like you have can help to change your view of yourself from a negative into a positive. Keep inspiring girl xxx

  7. I have struggled with self-love for a long time, so this is very relatable. It really is a time-consuming process to come to love ourselves and once we realize that it makes the entire process more worthwhile.

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